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Friday, November 21, 2014

18 months

The twins turned 18 months yesterday.

I used to buy clothes marked 18mths and 24mths when they were younger since those sizes are the largest in the infant series and now, they are 18 months with a TON of clothes. So much that I feel a little horrified and sick to the stomach at how much clothes they have. I managed to sell most of their old clothes away which is a relief though but I can't stop buying! Oh dear!

Twin A has improved tremendously.  She has stopped crying incessantly and being fearful of everything but seems to have a cleanliness streak which is disturbing. Neither my CEB nor I displayed such traits when we were children, much less now. Twin A refuses to touch sand (which means no playing in the playground with sand), or grass or anything that she views as dirty. She likes carrying packets of tissues or wet wipes in her hands and can be found cleaning the soles of her feet and her hands with the tissues/wet wipes. Twin A is obliging enough when you ask her to tidy up and keep things but when it comes to asking her to fix puzzles, she will only do so when she wants to. Twin A has a streak of mischief and sometimes I find her sitting on Twin B's lap and grinning naughtily.

Twin B has given me everything a mother can dream of. She is the child hugging on to my legs from behind and peeping at strangers (who comment how cute she is), and she is obliging enough when you ask her to fix puzzles or try to touch something. However, she won't fetch things on request or tidy up as obligingly. She has recently developed a bad habit of pushing her sister forward or pointing towards Twin A when you ask her to do something that she doesn't want (eg put hands in the air to be tickled).  Twin B remains a joyous child who makes all of us laugh with her actions (eg when I asked Twin A to close her mouth and turned around to find Twin B pursing her lips tight). When she does something wrong or she is feeling affectionate, she will say "hug" and hug you tight, laying her head on your shoulder. She is eager to learn and displays her memory skills with the flash card series from Glenn Doman. She sends chills up my back when she puts together two words like "black car" or "red car" when she sees one and can formulate a simple sentence like "Dog bark woof woof". She used to want to kiss me and would take my face in her hands to do so but of late, it depends on her mood.

Both twins can walk although Twin B is still unstable on her feet. Both can count to ten too and understand quantity up to 10. Twin B is able to fix the chunky pieces by Melissa and Dough and I watched her turning the chunky bits in her hand to line them up correctly before putting them in. Prior to that, she would just try to force the object in place regardless of position. And it shows me that my twins have grown.

Twin B is also making great progress in the swimming class according to the Coach. Twin A however lags behind quite a bit as she wails every lesson and it is not possible to go under the water crying and wailing.  Twin B displays great enthusiasm at trying new things in the water except go under but it will be just a matter of time.

I've signed them up for childcare starting 2016 so it's going to be one more year with two helpers at home. Home now being the new house that I've sold my soul for, or rather 30 years of my life working for. Not a very attractive proposition but when I see how much space I have, and have this large playroom for the twins, I can't help but feel happy and think they are worth slogging for.

Monday, October 20, 2014

No more falling asleep in my arms

Today I watched Twin B fall asleep on her cot for the first time. Previously she would fall asleep in my arms but for the past few nights, it's been harder and harder for her to fall asleep in my arms. She's usually half asleep when I put her in bed unlike previously when she would fall asleep.

I love her beyond measure, and I feel sad that my little girl is growing up faster than I thought possible. I always tell her "you are so small" and she would say "mama big". And I would say "you are mama's" and she would say "baby".

I used to fear the day she would no longer want me to rock her to bed and that day is upon me. Then the days when she will be able to read on her own will come and I will no longer have the pleasure of putting my little girl on my lap and read all about Clifford, Mr Bones etc.

I cherish each moment, each memory with this child of my heart. 


Saturday, October 11, 2014

Gutted interior

Renovation work has started and our house is gutted on all 3 levels. 

Renovation is certainly a long tedious process but so far my CEB has proved to be easy going (as usual) about the choices which makes most of the process a smooth one.

This is definitely a milestone in our marriage!

Tuesday, October 07, 2014

I'm a home owner!

We collected our keys to our first home today. :)

Both of us are home owners for the first time! Talk about putting the cart before the horse - we got married, had kids then bought a home.

If the condo my in laws are letting us stay in had more than 2 bedrooms, we wouldn't be looking to move at all, or maybe we would given how far away it is from our work place :p

Now, we are truly in debt.

Thursday, October 02, 2014

Completing sentences

Twin B is now able to complete sentences. I say "peeka" and she says "boo"! Or I'll say "Humpty Dumpty sat on the" and she would say "wall". She demonstrates a clear liking for "Clifford's Halloween" and I must have read the book a million times. She keeps bringing books over to me to read and will sit on my lap. She displays little interest in toys - perhaps they are the same ones. She can't fix puzzles unlike Twin A who has better motor skills.

Today, it struck me that they are no longer babies, but toddlers. I left them walking about in the playpen and when I changed and came out, Twin A was sitting on top of Twin B who was in the rocker. My first thought was how did Twin B get on the rocker when all these months I had lifted her onto the rocker? And Twin A grinned at me as if pleased with her prank. And my thought was "not a baby anymore! She actually has a sense of humor!"

Not quite sure if it's genes or all the food we have been feeding them but they are often mistaken for toddlers 2+ when I take them out. And I can see why - couple of days back, I put them in size 18mths swimming wear I had shipped from US months ago and after I looked at the pictures, I realized how fat both are. Oh dear! 



Sunday, September 21, 2014

Sunday afternoons.

Sunday afternoons are best spent lazing in bed with my CEB. 

I find it amazing how he can fall asleep and continue sleeping even if I'm resting my head against his shoulder or holding hands! 

Love this cheese eating buaya of mine so v much. We will be married for 40 months in a few days time, not 40 years but still a celebration in its own right, just like every day we manage to be together is. Marriage is a real challenge, even when there are the most affectionate and tender feelings involved. But having those feelings make get sacrifices and challenges somehow easier to bear.

And since we have kids and taken a huge debt together, then we might as well make the most of what we have chosen, this path we have taken.


Saturday, September 20, 2014

15-16 months


I wonder sometimes whether the twins will know how v much I have loved them all these months.

Twin A above weighed in at 11.5kg (just below 97th percentile) and was 83cm (97th percentile) at the 15th month assessment while Twin B was 12.1kg and 82cm.


Twin A has superior motor skills and can close boxes and fix puzzles (identification of shapes and colors) as compared to Twin B who remains fascinated by the color blue and has little patience fixing puzzles. However Twin B has a vocabulary of more than 15 words and is able to say two syllabus words like apple and baby as will as colors black and red.

Temperament wise, Twin A has not improved and still cries at almost any opportunity. She also pats her chest to indicate her fear of things like escalators and has to be coaxed to try new things. She can walk well though without sitting/falling as compared to Twin B and delights in walking about in her shoes. 

Twin B remains a joyful cheeky and affectionate child who has a twinkle in her eye. She lays her head on my shoulder so v often and taps my chest to say mama when I carry her, I think she knows we love her beyond measure. She is able to contort her tongue and make all sorts of sounds that crack us up. She is the light of my life - when I look at her, I think "child of my heart".

I don't suppose my CEB was too pleased when I suggested that maybe why God brought us together was so we could have the twins. Hmmm.

It's not that I don't love my CEB. I do, but  it's diff from the love I have for the twins. I watch them grow, I am blessed to have a job that allows me so much time at home to watch them develop, to be there when they first say mama, when they first walk, when they learnt to kiss me. It's more than just affection, although I feel like biting their chubby little legs. It's like I was made to love them.

I can close my eyes each night and still hear twin B's sweet little voice. Is strange that her voice is sweetest when she says papa and not mama. But it's always to mama she totters when she wants something (esp something blue), and I cannot imagine a life without this child of my heart. I frequently think of her in my tummy - those days I was so sick, vomitting, her kicking, churning within. And now my baby is here with me. A woman's love for a child cannot be measured.

My CeB has been supportive and I try not to put him in a difficult position. Sometimes I want to tell him how things really are, but I can see each night he is exhausted from work and I don't want to add to his troubles. So I just manage the situation myself - I want to tell him what's wrong but then to use him as a sounding Board serves no purpose except to disrupt his peace of mind, He still invokes in me a sense of tenderness - falling asleep in my arms or like now, lying fast asleep with all the bandages I just used to dress his wounds. I can't bear to burden him any further,

Thursday, September 18, 2014

My CEB

I have been writing a lot about our children but not very much about my CEB and our marriage.

Undeniably, our having children resulted in a lot more quarrels than we had before they arrived. And the quarrels were nastier than ever, sometimes where I feel that I want out, really want out. And in the days after, while seething, I would look at him and wonder how the hell I had gotten myself into this mess, wonder how I could have married this fella.

However, I love him. I love my CEB, my husband very much deep down despite him driving me up the wall some days. I love our nights cuddling together, I love him putting his arm around my waist, I love his unexpected "love you love you" which melts my heart. My CEB is so heartachingly sweet some times - not because of the words but because it's rare to hear his declaration of love and also, there's just this child like sincerity behind it. He melts my heart the way my twin B does. Like a couple of days ago, he hurt himself (nasty abrasions), and I was re-dressing his wounds when he said "thank you wife wife". I didn't expect any thanks because I was only doing what a wife should so hearing those words of appreciation touched me. 

So there are days I am ridden with guilt because I have said such nasty things to him when enraged. And he told me before in Peru not to say things to break his heart. And I still do. I know I hurt him deeply though he says nothing of it, but then weeks later, he says something which shows he remembered what I said. Ay, my poor CEB, I really really need to change and not fight so nasty. He lets me have my way for almost anything and I should try to protect his heart more. Afterall, we both are trying to grow old together. Well, at least that's the game plan. For now. 

I know he loves me from how he turns to me for cuddles, snuggles and the little things he does for me when I need him to although he is tired most weekdays. I know he loves me when he closes one eye and lets me have my way for almost anything. I know he loves me when he thinks for me and communicates with me. I don't know if I want to know more than what I know so I leave it alone and enjoy our love, our marriage, what we have.

He Is easy to love, my CEB. We have a good life together with our twins. Maybe he wasn't all that I wanted when I married him, but I have grown to love him so. And sometimes I just wish that even though I am sadly, regrettably, not what he wants, he might have grown to love me just that little more. 


Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Turning 35

The plan was to go to the babyfair and have a nice dinner with the hubby on my birthday.

Instead, I spent the day with the twins because I had fallen and broken my ankle the Sunday before. We were going to the pool with the twins and I was carrying E2 looking straight ahead instead of the steps and I missed the last step.

She was alright as she landed on my tummy still held in my arms but my right ankle wasn't. We thought it was a bad sprain but the xray showed an avulsion fracture which required a fiberglass cast.

And so there went my plans. The CEB was sweet enough to surprise me with a birthday cake the night before my birthday but dinner that day was just another home cooked meal. Alas. Not being mobile, to drive, to see the world has really dampened my spirits.

Turning 35 is also memorable because 12 days before my birthday, we bought a house. Yes, we are in debt now like all home owners! Prior to this, we have been staying at my in laws house but because it has just 2 bedrooms and we can't have the twins and the 2 helpers in one bed room, we decided to do some serous house hunting and in the stagnant market, we made 3 offers and the third, which was the lowest priced, was accepted. The other two were taken off the market.

The bank loan has been approved, the lawyers appointed and in a matter of months, we will be moving into the new home which is just 1 mrt station away from my mama's place's mrt station.

I never thought the first property we would purchase would be what it is. We were looking primarily at condos but given how much space children need these days, we decided to just bite the bulley and buy what would last us about 20 years till perhaps we could downsize after they have flown the coop.

So I'm 35 now, with 2 children I have gotten myself into debt for, and a CEB that still cracks the most nonsensical jokes. I can't bathe now without his help and he called me a "mobyko" because I had to climb out of the bathtub like sadako climbs out of the toilet.

I don't think my life could get anymore complete and I thank God for his kind blessings, broken ankle and all!


Monday, August 04, 2014

14 going on 15

Just a couple of days ago, my daughter kissed me. That was Twin A. I asked her to kiss mama and she leaned forward and put her lips on my cheek. 



There are some moments that you know you will remember forever and that's one of them.

Twin B has started to make her demands known through sign language. Her favourite word is mama mama and when she wants something she will point at it and go mama mama. 

We have a bedtime ritual where I  would dab organic cream into her fat little hand and face before I feed her milk. I forgot about that yesterday and she kept pressing one little fat hand on the back of the other hand. I didn't understand - then she pointed at the bottle and said mama mama and then pressed her hand again. 
And I understood. I understood my little girl.

When I hold her, rock her to bed in my arms and then smell her warm breath, I am filled with gratitude, wonder and joy. I look at her sleeping face, her open mouth, her soft hair and curls and I am lost in the moment. When she is awake, I marvel at her chubby little legs and rotund belly, her sweet little voice calling mama, her doing the cha cha cha by stamping her little feet. 


I do not believe it is possible for me to love anyone more than I love the twins. I love my CEB too , for he has been a supportive father and given me much lee way to do as I please with the twins, thus avoiding a lot of friction or quarrels if there were 2 parents trying to make the decision. :) I am a blessed mother and wife!




Saturday, July 26, 2014

I'm a liar

Yeah, I'm writing this post on my second last night in Tokyo, lying in bed watching looper after having pumped despite feeling ill.

You read that right - pumping. I brought the freaking breast pump to Tokyo and have been pumping 2x a day, when I wake up and before I sleep so as to maintain supply. The volume is pathetic though - about 100ml in the night and about 140ml in the morning. Maybe I will increase back to 3x a day since afterall, I am already pumping.

My mum asked me when I intended to stop. I guess when the supply stops totally on it's own. Twin A is on full FM but Twin B has 2 feeds of breast milk still.
When I get home I think the freezer will be depleted off the packets of EBM and I am bringing nothing home.

Everything I have pumped I have poured down the sink - pump and dump. There isn't any way around it - the milk can't survive 10 days on the road and a 6hr flight home.

The first thing I did when I landed was to pump in the nursing room in narita airport and that, will be the last thing I will be doing before I get on board tomorrow night. 


Monday, July 14, 2014

Color recognition

Twin B is able to identify colors after 3 days of continuous teaching. 

When I ask her to search for an item in a book and she can't find it, eg a balloon, I will tell her the color and she quickly finds the object eg pink balloon.

Twin B also shows an interest in being read to - she will bring the book over to you and climb into your lap. And yes, is the same book over and over.

Her infectious peels of laughter are triggered when we say ball ball or poke poke. This little girl is really a happy little button. 

Twin A shows more of an inclination to be taken for walks to look at vehicles. She is more careful than twin B when asked to look for an object and point it out. However she is more accommodating and will crawl over to an object you ask for and bring it over to you. Her motor skills are more advanced than twin B and she can push a ball or kick a ball and put all the coins and CDs into slits on the pig or toy. She can also shape sort some shapes.


Sunday, July 13, 2014

The letter P

Twin B has added the word purple and potato to her vocabulary at 13mths+

This little girl will be quite a talker, I think.

She also indicates a very strong preference for the colors purple and blue in that order.

Weighing in at 11.4kg which is 400gm more than Twin A, I have a feeling that she is no willow - that dress on her is by pigeon (jap brand) for a 3yrs old.

Monday, July 07, 2014

The letter B

The twins can talk at 13mths+. Or at least say some words

E1 says Ball whenever she sees a ball and points to it. She can also say Bag and Book and point to the items other than Mama. Occasionally she says "where" and when I ask here where is E1 is, she taps her chest. She is also getting quick at identifying and looking for items on the pages of a book and points to the shoe cupboard when I ask her where are her shoes. She is also obliging in nature and likes to fetch things on request. She can walk a few steps unsupported before sitting down and best of all, she has developed an ability to indicate no. If she does not want something she will shake her head. Unfortunately, she does not want a great many things ESP food so she is usually shaking her head. 

E2 on the other hand displays a healthy appetite and likes adult food. While E1 spits out right away what she doesn't like, E2 has a habit of storing the food in her fat little cheeks and refusing to open her mouth. Finally she will open her mouth and let all the food and saliva dribble out. E2 remains a very happy child waiting to laugh and recently she will laugh when I say bag bag before she repeats after me bag bag. She can say ball, apple and there. 

Both children enjoy being read to and asked to find common objects on the page. However E2 loves books more than toys and is always flipping the pages of a book even if not read to.

My domestic helper told me that E2 put her hand across my helper' mouth when my helper ignored her eh eh eh to be read to and talked to the nanny instead. This little girl will not be ignored. 

Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Passed the 13th month mark

I am still breastfeeding the twins at 13 months. However, I only pump 3x a day and the volume of milk has dropped drastically overnight to a mere 300ml in the morning when it used to be 750ml. The afternoon and evening pumps are even worse - between 140-200ml each session.

Having pumped on a fishing boat and lugged the pump about for two work trips so far, I am happy that I will finally be free of the pump. My last pump will be July 15th before a 10 days work trip where I have no intention to bring the pump at all.

Needless to say I have started introducing formula milk to the twins. Twin A has taken to it but Twin B is still resisting and except for 1 feed, is entirely on breast milk still.

I'm happy and proud that I have breastfed the twins till their 13th month with at least 15 packets of frozen milk still in the freezer. It's been 1 of the longest and hardest challenges as a mother and while I am not a breast feeding nazi, the benefits of feeding BM cannot be denied. 

And I have my mother to thank - before the twins were born, I was happily shopping for toys and clothes. And my mother said to me that one thing my money could not buy was breastmilk and its immeasurable benefits (increased immunity). That goaded me into getting up every 3 hours the first 8 weeks after delivery to pump to establish my supply. Other than fenugreek, I did not resort to any other medication but God was good and I was pumping over 2L of milk by the third week. 

While a huge part of me is happy that this stage of my life is coming to an end, another part is reluctant to stop as there really is no good reason to stop except the hassle of carrying the pump around on the work trip. And dumping away all the milk pumped during that trip.

But I cannot be tied infinitely to the pump and the twins do not go to childcare where there is a higher chance of falling ill  due to the free bugs so stop I will. I think. Heh.

Monday, June 02, 2014

Twin A said "bread" today

The twins are trying to imitate words and sounds they hear.

Today Twin A surprised me by saying bread. She likes eating bread, the only food I know of that she doesn't push away or spit out ten times.

She is more watchful and less communicative than Twin B. However, she is just as affectionate and rubs noses with all of us and the pictures in the books.

Twin B crawls over to us and lays her head on us to show affection. She is a very insistent curious little girl who will not be ignored. She is open to eating all sorts of food and has mastered the pincer grip.




Monday, May 19, 2014

Growing up so fast

A few days ago, Twin B started pointing at objects while saying oooo and identifying animals in books. But she thrilled me when 2 days ago while feeding her, I asked her to wipe my mouth and she picked up the wet towel and dabbed my mouth. 

Both twins can also give me items on command and identify objects when asked to pick between two - like qn avocado and lemon.

Twin A proves difficult to feed still, rejecting even breastmilk and formula milk and the nanny has to resort to spoon feeding. 

Twin B loves milk though but is a nightmare to feed solids. Where she clammed her lips shut, she now refuses to swallow and lets everything dribble out. Sigh. 

Despite these difficulties, both have breached the 10kg mark and carrying them around proves v v tiring. I still take them on their morning walk though to show them either the gardens or the roads. 


Monday, April 28, 2014

Character traits

Parents have the responsibility of building character and I write this to remember what I want for the twins:

1) grit
2) self-control
3) zest
4) social intelligence 
5) gratitude
6) optimism
7) curiosity 


And may they be blessed with motivation, perseverance, good study habits and time management skills.

Sunday, April 27, 2014

Docking station

My CEB likened me to a docking station for the twins. Twin A recently has become clingy to me where previously she was independent. No matter who was holding her earlier, the moment she sees me, she crawls over and tries to stand up using me as support. And she hugs on to me desperately if I try to put her down. If I do put her down, it will be for but for sec before she wails and tries to crawl over. And today I was reading to Twin B in the hall when she crawled over and pushed Twin B away so she could sit where Twin B sat. 

Twin A weighs in at 10.3kg (the 18-24mths Gap swimsuit is already tight on her ) and seems to be developmentally ahead of Twin B. She is however more fearful in nature and will need persuasion to accept something new, be it food or an activity. Unlike Twin B, she does not like the Gerber stars but prefers bread for snacks. 


As for Twin B who is 10.4kg, she has become pretty adept at picking up the Gerber snacks and feeding herself with them. She loves books and is starting to learn how to flip the books the right way up. She has a curious habit of tapping her fingers on objects, particularly new ones. And she is v clingy to me. If I carry her, she won't let anyone else but my helper take her away. She will hug tighter on to me and rest her head on my chat to show she wants to be with me. Twin B is also v vocal and makes all sorts of sounds. And when I feed her and she is full, she will grab my hand that is holding the spoon and say mama mama pleadingly. She also gave me quite a delightful shock 2 says back when I asked her where is mama while carrying her and she slapped my chest resoundingly.  In the past 3 says we have been out, I have been stopped at least 3 times by strangers who say she is damn cute or gush over her. She is happy to blow kisses or wave after a time or say Gee to them which is endearing. 


I try to spend as much time as I can teaching them and playing with them. These are the pics I took of them today when I took them down for a swim,

I also took them to Ntuc xtra for the first time where they sat in the trolley seats. There is so much for them to see and explore!


Sunday, April 20, 2014

11 months

And so 11 months have gone by. The absolutely best months I have had.

I am no longer a kris flyer gold card member or a Hilton Gold member and I am giving up my HSBC infinite card this month as my lifestyle has altered dramatically since I was pregnant. 

I have no regrets living it up before I became a mother and I have less regrets giving it all up in exchange for time with the twins.

The twins now can blow kisses and wave bye or hello. Twin B called my CEB Daddy 2 days ago. I found Twin A's button to make her scream with glee. They crawl everywhere and anywhere and though I bought a 12 panel haenim playard, I have only used 5 panels to block off the TV console area rather than to keep them in. They are curious at this age and want to touch everything. Their fingers are now strong enough to press buttons and both twins can press the button to open the gate. They have also mastered the pincer grip with twin b happily feeding herself the gerber puffs. Twin A prefers eating bread though.

Other than the 2 stuffed toys they were gifted with since birth by my sister and which I take a photo of them with monthly, they do not have any other stuffed toys and display zero interest in cuddling one (twin b will hug on command the giraffe though). They much prefer books and I have tons of books for them to flip while eating or to study the pictures of when they are not crawling about.

I don't know where their interests lie as yet but I think they need to be given the opportunity to be exposed to more than the babyspa and once a week enrichment classes. It is time to start planning indeed.


Sunday, April 13, 2014

Priorities

Motherhood has been a juggling act, what with twins and having to hold down a full time job. Knowing that my conversations with the twins and time spent interacting with them will have an immeasurable influence on their lives, I have done my best to be around them as much as possible. I plan my days, my time around them and there is sometimes, very little time left for anything else. They are only awake 7am to 7pm and so whatever can be done in the night (work like telecon), is done then.

I know that they will grow up one day. I know that they will leave me one day. But I enjoy them now, so very much. Nothing gives me greater happiness than to see Twin A grin at me in pure joy on the playmat or to have Twin B crawl as fast as her little legs will take her to me saying mama mama. I thank God for my twins, and I thank God for my wonderful job that not only allows me the financial ability to provide for them but also allows me the time with them and to watch them grow up. I love hearing their laughter, playing with them, letting them amaze me with each milestone.

Twin A can crawl over to the bumble bee now to crinkle its wings if I tell her to, and she knows how a book is held, turning it the proper way around if you give it to her upside down. She is also able to flip the flaps of all the books, turn the pages when I tell her "turn the page" and both twins are able to hi five and clap their hands on command. And when I sing row row row the boat, Twin A will rock back and forth to the tune. They are also able to be "little Red Indian girls" by clapping their mouths while making sounds and they know how to press the buttons to the lift to go down and up. Twin B also knows that to open the gate when we come back from the stroll, she must touch the key transponder to the keypad until we hear a beep then we can open the door. She also understands what kicking is snd splashing is and when I tell her to kick the fisher price penguin or the fire hydrant she does do with great gusto!

Babies aren't born knowing all of that. The twins aren't clever or special doing all of the above. All that they can do are the product and results of hours spent by my mother, the nanny, the maid and me with them, talking and teaching, repeating and reading. Buying a bunch of toys (and yes, I have loads) and letting them play with those on their own isn't going to help them. To learn, there must be interaction and effort. To teach, there must be commitment and heart.

Children to be enjoyed and loved. Especially at this age when they adore you and you are the world to them. It is a privilege, a blessing to be a parent, and I feel so so so complete with my 2 little munchkins.that I know with utmost certainty that I will not regret the sacrifices I have made and will make for them.

 I know the best feeling of the world now -  to watch my daughter fall asleep in my arms, to have her want me, call me, lay her head on my shoulder and sometimes just look at me full in the face with an expression of wonder. 


Wednesday, April 09, 2014

Update at almost 11 months

I think the grown spurt at the 9th month was the most momentous one. 

They (Twin A followed by Twin B ) managed to get to a sitting position on their own from their usual lying down (back or belly) positions. After that (about 10 months), they (Twin B followed by Twin A ) managed to pull themselves up to a standing position in their cots by holding on to the bed rails. 

And at 10 months and 10 days, Twin B looked at me and said “Mummy”. I thought it was a fluke but she called me Mummy again the next day, and 1 week later when my CEB carried her, she said clearly and sweetly “Papa”. Since 4+ months Twin A could say “Mum Mum, Mama Papa and Dada” but I doubt she associated the right objects with the words, maybe save for “mum mum” which she would repeat when hungry. Now she looks at me and says “Mama”. 

They are also able to “hi five” and “clap” their hands on command, and identify objects around the house (that started about 8 months) like “light”, “fan”, “door”, “key” and “mummy’s wedding photo”. I still bring them to the babyspa but have also started to bring them to the condo’s pool once/twice a week in the morning for a quick splash about. I started with Twin B since she appeared to like splashing her feet in the water every time we walked by, and then started bringing Twin A whom I had previously pushed in a pram on morning walks to the bus stop where we would sit and watch the vehicles go by before dropping by the letter box to get letters. Until they can walk properly, swimming is still the main and only form of exercise. Last week though. My CEB and I fenced up the TV area with the Haenim playard as the twins have started crawling somewhat. Twin A can crawl faster and on her hands and knees but Twin B will not be thwarted and will drag herself on the belly to get where she wants to. 

Twin A and Twin B display the same characteristics as they did when they were in my womb. Twin A is still less active and less demanding attention wise. She appears to be scared of Twin B when it comes to grabbing for stuff and tends to give in to Twin B (almost) always. She still cries easily, whenever she is just the slightest bit unhappy and feeding her is the stuff of nightmare. She just refuses to suck at the teat and can leave it in her mouth for 45mins and suck 10ml out of 200ml. In the end she is taken out to be spoon fed the milk and sometimes that ends up all over the place. She is also a fussy eater and uses her hands to beat away the food but when it comes to bottled/pre-prepared jarred/packet foods, she eats that happily enough.

 Twin B kicked a lot in the womb and still uses her feet to express herself by thumping away with both legs up and down really hard if she’s unhappy or using her feet to push stuff away, eg my arm if I am bottle feeding her. She also has started biting recently, including biting Twin A and latching is an impossibility as she won’t suck but lunge forward and bite with her two bottom teeth.However, Twin B has her little winning ways though – she is a very happy baby waiting to laugh and will chuckle loudly with glee at the slightest opportunity (such as my making a funny sound or even while she’s watching me play with Twin A). Since 9 months, she has started to offer me her pacifier to suckle and this morning when I gave her a comb to comb her hair, she reached out with the comb to comb my hair instead. 

I am still giving them full breast milk at almost 11 months and I am hoping to hit the one year mark. God is good indeed – I can’t imagine the cost if I had to use formula milk given that 1 can is about S$50 and they go through 2 cans every 10 days. The money saved goes towards paying for their enrichment classes (started at 8 months for 1 hour). 

And talking about finances, it is getting harder though to go to work especially when the twins are awake and clamoring to leave the house but I can’t imagine staying at home taking care of them 24/7 with a helper and doing the same feed-bathe-nap routine day after day. I would go quite mad. The nanny is still the best option for now (though a few thousand a month is very taxing on the pocket.) because 1) unlike parents/in-laws, she does things how I want things to be done at home 2) it allows me freedom to buy and do whatever I like, especially for the twins. However, next month they turn 1 years old and I guess it’s time to look at other options for my two little munchkins.



Friday, February 07, 2014

Where did time go?

I know I have been really tardy about updating my blog, and deliberately so.

Twins are really a handful even with a full time nanny and a domestic helper. Between work, breastfeeding/pumping and helping about the house, I have just that bit of time to spend with the twins. So between updating this blog and being with them, I would really rather enjoy them now.

This (8mths) is the age when they get to be fun. Where they shriek with laugher and smile back at you. Where they start to remember things, flip and roll around, and make all sorts of funny noises. A child's laughter is priceless, esp your own child's.  And I have two of them. 

Twin A. 


And Twin B. 


It must run in the genes - both are almost 10kg at just 8 months! Twin A is a mini replica of my CEB while Twin B looks just like I did when I was her age.

And here is a picture of them on the first day of the 2014 Chinese Lunar New Year at my in-laws house.  May the year of the horse be a good one for these little fellas!


I am tremendously blessed.